About The Phoenix
Who I Am Today
Jessica "Alexis" Steele is the founder of The Legacy of Innocence
Lost Foundation and she is also a survivor of childhood abuse and incest. She
is the mother of three amazing children and is involved
in a long term loving relationship. Alexis is very dedicated to teaching other
survivors how to navigate through their own recovery. She has a very full life
juggling family, friends, and her dreams of making a lasting impact on incest
and abuse in our society.
Her writings began at 17 years old and cover her lifes journey thus far
from 4 years of age to current. She is 20 plus years past her last
counseling session for Incest and Abuse Recovery and has a great deal to offer
She truly has a deep compassion for every survivor and encourages survivors
seek professional counseling and to take encouragement from her story and gain
knowledge from her insights. She regularly has support groups and workshops
and is finishing a book and workbook as well.
She really connects and relates with the mythical bird "the Phoenix"
and even though this mythological bird dies and is reduced to ashes from those
ashes it is reborn a flaming mythical Phoenix. That is what incest recovery
felt like for Alexis like the broken messed up parts of her where dying and
she was being reborn and often uses the nickname "the Phoenix" especially
as a pen name from a life time of writings.
My Abuse and Incest Survival Story Preface
Click (here) for my story, be advised
while no specific details of the incest are recounted, I do speak about the
general situation, the physical beatings, the timeline and the impact that the
years of assaults had on me. It is not easy reading and can be skipped entirely.
The only real purpose it serves is to allow other survivors of abuse to comprehend
the level of abuse and damages that I was able to recover from, in order to
give hope to other survivors.
Read about my story and maybe begin to think: "You know if she can do
it, then so can I." Also this story gives me credence, you know where I
am coming from and that I am not full of it
I speak it from the trenches.
Something that always bothered me as a teen and young adult struggling
in therapy is the Poly-Anna types telling me incest recovery is possible
and they werent even molested one time, never punched in the face. It
used to really anger and alienate me from those types. I wanted to hear it from
an incest survivor- you tell me that I can get past this and maybe I will believe
you. But for her to tell me? Please. I wanted to tell the Poly Anna women: "Sit
down and shut up."
Not every incest survivor will be able to relate to me, not everyone's abuse
was this severe; some have survived worse, some less. No matter what level of
survival you come out of, I believe that by sharing my struggles and my journey
of healing with you that you will find inspiration and insights that will touch
My Story of Surviving the Aftermath of Abuse and Incest
Click (here) for my story. Be advised-
it is hard to read how deeply lost I was to the chaos the abuse left inside
of me. But here again, it is for the incest survivor to relate to
pull inspiration and insights for their journey.
My Story of Entering Incest Recovery
My recovery lasted between 1985 and 1994. I began with the Incest Recovery
Association of Dallas and the Pastoral Counseling and Education Center in Dallas.
I went very intensively for many years and then, as my skills and tools developed,
I went a little less and then finally I was at a point where the major and many
of the minor issues had been worked out. Finally, I was well into my recovery.
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